The Quinndex

I’ve spent almost a year and a half rolling this post around in my brain, trying to figure out how I want to approach it, and I’m still not any further along. So, I think it’s time to just rip the Band-Aid off and say it.

The day after I wrote my last post in this blog, my spouse and I agreed to very amicably separate. There are a lot of reasons why we made this decision, but the bottom line is that after a romantic relationship of over 25 years, our paths and priorities were diverging more and more. While we have ended our romantic relationship and are now living separately, we still regard one another as platonic partners. We’re both happier this way as we are both thriving in our separate, still polyamorous, lives, and that’s really the most important thing. If you know us personally, and have questions, bring them to one of us instead of speculating privately. However, know that we are still very much on the same team and very much one another’s biggest cheerleader. Since we are not taking sides against one another, we ask that you do the same.

They have permitted me to write that they are presently in a romantic relationship (with an amazing, loving partner, I might add), they are enjoying a new job, and they are very happy with how their life is progressing. Please direct any questions about their separate life to them.

Currently, I am not in a romantic relationship, and I am not looking for one. For the time being, I’m living on my own in an efficiency apartment about the size of a standard hotel room. I’m content with my teeny space, and I am thoroughly enjoying making it my own. In doing so, I’m slowly shifting my mindset from loneliness to solitude, and in doing so I’m learning to enjoy my own company, a lesson that has been decades coming.

I’m also trying to establish good habits that I’ve found challenging in years past, and I’m trying to address my own physical and mental health. I’m also starting to look at continuing my education and am planning to have at least a bachelor’s degree when I decide to call it an educational career. Right now, though, my major is up in the air, as Texas Tech, the university that I had planned to graduate from, has decided that sexual and gender identity and studies are not to be discussed in any capacity as a student or faculty member, and I’d rather give up my lifelong dream to earn my degree than to receive one from any university with such a draconian policy regarding LGBTQ+ issues. I have opinions on this, and they’ll likely be the subject of a future post.

There is so much else that’s transpired, but those things will be the subjects of future posts, too. For now, I’m content for this post to wrap up. More soon, I promise, or at least sooner than another year and change between posts.

Since it’s been so long since I posted last, I think it’s just best to reset Quinn’s Quote Quest with the title of this post. Guess away! (Full disclosure: The ellipses in the quote omit the words “back east,” as they aren’t relevant to how the title relates to the post.)